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Link Ė Joining Fortunes With The Unknown
- Gender War Ė And Ways To Avoid It
A transcript from a live Bone Throwing presentation
on Transitions Radio Magazine
Link Ė Joining Fortunes with the Unknown
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Excerpt From Sacred Link
ďOh yeah.Ē The overwhelming amount of control that has
been executed upon us through the centuries by the manipulation of our
senses, particularly the sense of touch, was now really sinking in.
ďBut what can I do to change it?Ē
ďDonít live for them. Live for you.Ē
Domano leaned over, ďTake back what is yours. A personís
Song can never get cut away from them. They tricked you into turning
away from it. To blind yourselves. Make yourselves numb. But you do not
have to be. You can fight. Only this war is inside you.
ďThe battle here is to find yourself and the path you
stand on. Itís knowing your own Song and feeling this life inside you
and all things; living a life that gives as much as it takes from all
the relatives and meet them, know them, share love with them, learn the
wonders of the world from them; to meeting with your own species in
harmony and giving; being able to respect yourself among the
generations. This is dancing the web. This is wanowa ka ta see. It is a
choice to walk this beauty or to give up and walk as one of the living
Excerpt from Kay Cordell Whitakerís forthcoming new
book Sacred Link.
"A colorful sacred journey to the inner self."
ďSacred Link [is] like eating a box of truffles (a rare
indulgence, but one where you savor every bite!)"
ďSacred Link sent chills up my spine, what a compelling empowering
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2. Gender War
The following is a transcript from a live Bone Throwing presentation by
Kay Cordell Whitaker on Transitions Radio Magazine hosted by Alan Hutner
and Elizabeth Rose.
Alan: Alright, it is time for the Bone Throw. With us in the studio, Kay
Cordell Whitaker and Helmut Whitaker her husband and partner in various
activities in life. Theyíre just back from New York at one of the major
book publisherís expos and they unveiled Kayís new book Sacred Link Ė
Joining Fortunes With The Unknown.
Beautiful cover, we have an advanced copy here. Iím sure weíll be doing
a full blown interview with Kay at the right moment. Sheíll tell us when
that is, I guess.
Nice to have you back here after we skipped a couple of Bone Throws just
so you guys can get all the work done that you needed to, to get this to
press and to be released.
How was it?
Kay: It was fabulous and it is quite nice to be back Ė in the studio
sitting on the floor here with all the Bones and hanging.
Alan: Youíre not ready to move to New York yet?
Kay: Not quite.
Alan: Not quite. What do they say, itís a great place to visit?
Kay: Itís fascinating. It was awesome, but I donít think I could be
there for any length of time.
Alan: Yeah. Well, in celebration of your return and also of Fatherís Day
we concocted this questions here that we all kind of talked about and
thatís about man and woman and their relationships.
Is there a gender war still going on? What are the negative and positive
dynamics between man and woman at this time? It being fatherís day, how
are fathers doing as a collective and what can we all do to improve
masculine and feminine balance for a better world?
And those of you first tuning in, we have asked that question and you
blow on some sixty Bones that Kay has accumulated and they are spread
out over a cloth, which has a figure on it. And she had been taught for
years and years and years and years and years by the Hetakas of South
America how to do this prophetic way of looking at the question. So I
turn it over to you.
Kay: The first things that the Bones talk about is the bigger picture,
how things look from a much greater perspective and this is described by
a piece called the Plumbed Serpent and thatís the first thing thatís
pointed at. What this means is that when we look at this much, much
bigger picture, outside of time and space, we are in a ďplaceĒ between
lives, so to speak. We can design new activities, where we want to go,
if we want to be on this planet again, if we want to be in a human body
or some other kind of form or some other place entirely or when we
decide to come back here and be in human form, we get to choose which
century, which culture, which family. We make agreements with others to
set a stage, literally.
So as a culture, for many, many millennia, we have been setting a stage
that is based on the backwards turning wheel energy, the energy that
takes things apart, that very easily finds fault, and power over, and
judgment, and separation, and all those things weíve come so well to
know through the years. And in terms of male female relationships, the
stage weíve designed is one of great separation, antagonism, inequality,
power over, denying the feminine and the non-linear. And so how this
plays out, and it is still playing out, yes the war is still continuing
and we still have a great deal of this social programming (thatís what
my grandparents called our masks) that has to do with these blind
beliefs, the inequality of the sexes, the need for this separation and
suspicion and judgment and anger and frustrations with all dealings with
Now this is at a state where itís turning. We are, as the Bones have
said a number of times, we are in this place where the backwards turning
wheel is coming to an end and we are now building this positive turning
wheel, a culture based on this positive turning wheel and that has to do
with all these beautiful energies that are based on love and truth, the
truth of oneís own being, which my grandparents called our own Song. And
as we do this, we have the opportunity to change all of these dynamics.
The Magic Piece, the Opportunity Pieces, the Abundance Piece, they are
all on the here and now moment line in the Bones and we have this
opportunity. The Death, the Skull, is right there, right side up and
that means something is going to die away and something new is going to
be born. Itís like a doorway and itís waiting for us to walk through.
Allís we have to do is take a very clear look at ourselves and our
beliefs about ourselves, our relationships about gender, about
everything that has to do with our society, our interactions. We have no
clear picture right now, and we havenít had for many, many millennia, of
what it means to have two genders and what that can be and what kind of
fruit that can bear besides having babies and sex.
Weíve taken the fun out of everything. Weíve taken the beauty and the
equality and the admiration and the respect out of everything in our
lives, especially things concerning gender.
So, now, here we are at the threshold, this place of great magic. If we
chose to do this, in the blink of an eye, literally, the blink of an
eye, we can entirely change this dynamic and learn how to live with
unconditional love. The Unconditional Love Piece is in the very, very
center and thatís the key right there. Unconditional love and
unconditional acceptance of all things, all people, everything just as
they are. Theyíre doing just fine. You may not approve of some of the
behaviors, but we need to accept them without judgment. We donít need to
throw the barbs and the judgment and the hatred. All that it does is
make more separation, it breeds more hatred, more distrust, more anger
and the thing just keeps self-perpetuating. But we can stop it.
If we can learn how to examine ourselves, our own Song and be true to
ourselves and allow this complete non-judgment, unconditional love and
acceptance of the other and learn how to communicate in a safe place, a
save environment. We have to create, no matter where we are, this
atmosphere, an environment of safety, so that no matter what is
expressed and said itís not taken in a bad way; itís not taken as some
sort of an attack. Than we need to stop and look at all these different
things that are said and offered in this safe place, in this safe way,
and see what kind of validity we can find in that and than offer back
something about how that made us feel, some other ideas, opportunities
that we can dream up so that we can interact in a much more fruitful and
harmonious way. But without this safe unconditional love, this safe
place communication, none of this can happen. We have to make that
commitment; the Commitment Piece is in the center as well. There is no
commitment made yet.
We have to make a commitment to do these things, to make this change.
Alan: It seems to me that there was more polarization between the
masculine and the feminine back, I donít know, 20 years or so when the
feminist movement, maybe itís longer even, when the feminist movement
struck out in another way. Of course women couldnít vote, if you go way
back, that was changed and than women in business, itís still looked as
the men have an edge, salaries and what they do. So, more and more has
come to the surface around this, but it seems now that itís almost
partially underground. We donít, you know, itís not talked about, itís
not written about and yet, as the Bones say Ö
Kay: Itís still there.
Alan: Itís still there. So this idea of almost like non-violent
communication that you are talking about, you know we had Marshall
Rosenberg on the show, talk about this, how do we talk with each other
in a way thatís more loving. Particularly taking responsibility for
those patterns of ego that we have that react. You know, we react to
something when we perceive we are hurt, by lets say a women saying
something to a man or a man saying something to a woman, that goes deep
inside and triggers something and, you know, the measurements that were
off. How do we discover those things quickly enough so we donít respond
in, letís say, more anger or an angry discourse that escalates to a
point where, you know, somebody is ready to do physical violence even.
You know, battered woman, battered man.
Kay: In one of the hands there is the Piece of Low Self-esteem,
inadequacy and what thatís saying is that we have been taught, both men
and women, to live with this belief about ourselves that most likely
there is something very wrong with us. That we are inadequate, weíre not
acceptable, society wonít accept us, our mate wonít accept us, our
friends, our family wonít accept us. Nobody wants to know who we really
are and if we try to show it we will be out everything, we will loose
absolutely everything: excommunicated.
And so we live with this basic underlying belief that there is always
going to be something wrong with us, we are always inferior to the point
that nobody could truly see us or love us. Weíre afraid to show the
truth of who and what we are because of this and we do all kinds of
bazaar things to get this acceptance. We say things, we take actions,
based on the beliefs that these things are somehow going to make us more
acceptable, that they are somehow more correct; and actually they are
just part of the social programming thatís been the problem all along
with the backwards turning wheel. Itís all about judgment, separation,
not good enough and we project these things out. When we are feeling
them about ourselves, we projects them outward and we try to find fault
in others, we try to find something ďless-thanĒ in others and demean
them for it.
So this is a very constant dynamic thatís part of the maleĖfemale
interaction for millennia.
When we say ďsafe spaceĒ, that means we need to make an agreement with
each other that we will sit down with enough time to carry out all this
conversation. This interaction might mean hours, uninterrupted. Turn the
phones off, lock the door. Nobody else needs to be part of this; send
the kids to the babysitter. This is between you and your mate. And
without this safe space and uninterrupted clear time, we canít develop
this mode of conversation, this communication.
We are used to communicating on the surface, mask to mask, program to
program, batter to batter, just battling on and on. One-upmanship goes
on and on and on, itíll be endless if we donít stop it. And we can. So
to create this safe, safe space we have to agree that we will leave
anger out, that we will leave all judgment out of this space. No matter
what kind of things get triggered and what old programming is jumping up
wanting to scream and yell and cuss and call names, we need to leave it
out and as these things come up, we need to express. We are so used to
talking from the surface from this socialization, saying what we think
is the acceptable thing to say, but we are not expressing the real
thoughts and feelings that are inside.
We donít express anything about who and what we are, our creativity, our
deepest thoughts and desires and dreams because we are afraid of this
rejection, we are afraid of it being inadequate. We donít want to appear
that way to others, especially our beloved.
Alan: Yeah, you know as you were talking I was getting a couple of
things. First of all in the Huna teachings which I studied for a while
maybe a year and a half, about energy and when do you take
responsibility for an issue, particularly when you are arguing with
somebody or you are getting into an argument and the teaching was who
has the energy, just to look at the way somebody reacts. And to create a
safe space, as you said, and than let somebody, look you have the, in a
nice way, look you have all this energy around this, whatís that about?
What are you so upset about instead of you responding with upsetness
back; you know, enhancing that negative energy, you know what I mean. So
Alan: So take an honest look at yourself when you are in a reactive or
highly stressed, tense angry mode and take responsibility for that.
Kay: It needs to be expressed. Sometimes we donít express it at all.
Especially women will deny that itís there, will get very angry, tearful
and refuse to continue to communicate. Man very often have not been
taught anything about true communication and we start getting into
deeper things, into those barbed areas, the barbed responses, they blow
up and they leave. Men donít know how to deal with it at all either.
So thatís what we have to figure out, we have to make this safe space
where all these barbs can be talked about, they can be owned up to
without blame, without any judgment.
Kay: And than, once we get past the barbs, than, there is this
extraordinary wealth information and love and interaction that can take
All of the pieces like the Creativity Bones, the gifts of being able to
do all these beautiful things, dreaming the dream, talking with the
spirits, they are all upside down in this Throw, every single one of
When we are in the middle of societyís grip and weíre playing societyís
game mask to mask, than all those gifts are turned off. Theyíre gone,
our clarity is gone, we are just in the middle of this cesspool of
reacting mask to mask.
The true interaction is Song to Song.
Thatís why we develop a safe space and get all this communication out
clearly on the table without any blame, no judgment; and there, there is
the jewel. Once that garbage is out of the way than you can express the
who and what that you really truly are and you can accept that truth in
the other without any of these games, without any of the judgments and
the barbs and the anger and the hatred and the revenge and all that
When we can react and interact Song to Song, truth to truth, what comes
of that is just indescribable, it is endless, boundless.
Alan: Hmm, well we suggest you give it a try and if youíd like some more
guidance or information from Kay sheíll be glad to talk with you. You
can call in New Mexico 505-466-3387, you can also go to the website at
worldbalance.com and the book is out officially when?
Alan: O.K. couple of months for the book, weíll have a big unveiling
here on the Radio Show. Thanks, thanks a lot for today.
Kay: Thanks so much.
Alan: Alright again, those 2 pair of tickets are waiting to be had, all
you need to do is call at the first note of the song called ďI Never
Slept With Alan GinsburgĒ. And you are listening to Transitions Radio
Magazine, Alan Hutner and Elizabeth Rose along with Kay Cordell Whitaker
and Helmut Whitaker in the studio having a great Fatherís Day Sunday,
nice weather, itís going to warm up today. Go out and do a picnic and
love your father, love your mother, love your sister, love your brother,
you know what I mean.
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